Wednesday, March 4, 2009

SAH Mom vs. SAH Wife (Changing Seasons)

"Stacy, yes, my mothering years ended way too early. How do I do it? Well, it took me awhile to realize it, but, I still have a responsibility to be a keeper of my home and example to younger women. And, I'm putting a lot more time into being a better wife, which I should have been more consumed with all along. It stinks to have the kids gone, but, it's a new season that I'm learning to adapt to and enjoy."
This was the response I sent to Stacy from after she commented on the post I wrote about my youngest child finishing school and leaving home. I decided to expand on it.
When I said it took me awhile to realize what my responsibilities were at this time, I was not exaggerating. When the homeschool years were over I spent many days in tears wondering what do I do now? I cried and prayed about what I was supposed to be doing. Am I supposed to go to work, if so, where? What does God want me to do with the rest of my life? I worked several temporary jobs, but, knew they were not something I would want to do long term. I did not feel qualified for what I felt was a worthwhile career or even know what that career would be. I would become depressed and down on myself. My husband at times was concerned and thought if I just got out of the house and got a job it would help me(and our finances). All my life I just wanted to be a homemaker. I had never dreamed of anything else. As I read article after article, everyone is talking about how important it is to be a stay at home mom. Well, my mom days were over, did that mean I didn't need to be home any more? As I mentioned, I prayed and prayed wondering why I wasn't getting an answer.
Well, when I went to the Word of God, the answer was right in front of me. Titus 2:3-5 says that the older women are to teach the younger women keepers at home... As I read this over and over I kept wondering, how can the older woman teach the younger women this if they are not at home? What kind of example am I setting for them? If I am suddenly able to acquire more money and things that I never could before until I went to work, couldn't my daughter see this and be tempted to do the same thing?
I firmly believe God has called me to be a stay at home wife. Since I have accepted this, I am now at peace. I have put myself into making my home better than it ever was and being a better helpmeet to my husband. I am really enjoying this new season in my life now.
P.S. I would love to read your comments on this subject.


  1. I have really appreciated you blog. You have been nominated for an award. check it out on my blog :) congradulations!

  2. I can't even imagine what life will be like when my littles are not so little.

  3. This was really wonderful. Thank you =) If hubbys doesnt change his mind about only wanting two kiddos I could see my little ones out of the house as early as 40 (if i were to concieve #2 this year) and IF they decided toleave the house at 18. The years only go by faster and faster and I think its good to be prepared for the changing seasons. Thank you again. :)