Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Submit or Obey Our Husbands?

What's the difference? I heard a preacher say on the radio that the Bible never says for wives to obey their husbands. It says children obey your parents, slaves obey your masters, but it says wives submit to your husbands. Just thought I would throw this out there in case anyone wanted to join my son-in-law and my conversation on what the difference is. I know this is a very loaded question requiring a detailed answer, but thought it would be interesting to hear some others thoughts.


  1. Hmmm... that is indeed a deep question!!
    The first scripture that comes to
    my mind on obey would be...

    "Just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear."
    -I Peter 3:6

    ...But I'd like to study the obey verse submit issue a little more! Thank you for the thought provoking question... I look forward to hearing what other ladies have to say too!!

    Many Blessings~ Miss Jen

  2. Really good scripture on the subject. Thanks for sharing it. I love to ponder these issues and use them to dig into scripture. Thanks for joining in.

  3. Interesting conversation...I don't have time to reply fully but have posted on the subject here

  4. You can obey someone, but have a bad attitude about it. If a police officer tells me to step out of the car, I'm going to obey him, but I won't be happy about it.

    But to submit implies obedience while agreeing with them in your heart. When you submit you're giving yourself to that person. It's interesting that God chose that word instead of just obey when talking about a husband and wife :)

  5. Hello, Sharon! I found your blog through Blessed Femina.

    Your question has made me curious. Now, I want to look up the word "submit" in the Greek.

    My husband and I have talked about this before, and we think that Paul really wanted husbands and wives to work together.

    He commanded that husbands love their wives as Christ loved the church. So, we think that the loving preceeds the submitting, both working together in a godly marriage.

    I'm sure there are many lovely thoughts to be shared concerning this subject. It is truly one to make us think.

    I hope you have a wonderful, Christ-filled weekend!

    Blessings to You,


  6. Hi Sharon,
    I found this quote by Elisabeth Elliot which shows that she sees no difference in the words submit and obey. I think I would have to agree with her.
    Blessings in the Lord,

    "A wife is to obey her husband, because she pictures the obedient bride of Christ, cleansed and ornamented, entering into the unspeakable joy of union with her Lord. How could that kind of obedience be a thing to be ashamed of?"
    Elisabeth Elliot

  7. I am sorry but to be blunt about it..Eve is told that Adam shall rule over her and in Hebrews we are all told that we must obey those who rule over us. Pretty simple. Naturally sinful man does not obey God and most wives do not obey their husbands. Two heads are not better than one. God made man the head. You got two got alot of fighting going on and it is impossible for the two to become one flesh. The head leads, the body follows and they become one flesh.